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Tuesday, May 11, 2010

Dishwasher Marries Hollywood Legend


So, I guess I didn't tell you that my blog is going to sometimes be very random. I am a very random person and sometimes share things that come out of the blue. At least, I, like to pretend they are exciting things. To me they are or I wouldn't be sharing =).

Anyways, to get on with the story, I had a hard week. My morning was full of packing lunches, making eggs and toast, hurrying kids out the door to make it to school in time, and then a few things happened to make me want to cry. Sometimes, as a mom, it AIN'T easy!!! I just kind of had one of those mom moments where you think, "Why do I do this again? Why did I have children?!" I know that may sound crazy to some of you mothers out there but I know a few who would be honest enough to admit to me they have had that conversation with himself! Don't get me wrong, having children is the most amazing thing and I love them more than life but a lot of us have those moments. Dealing with the tantrums, potty training, talking back(kindergarten it starts!), and all the other pains are troublesome but the joys definitely overdo them. I can go on and on about the joys but I will never continue my story! The point to start with is that today started off with me thinking about the pains!

As I dropped my oldest off at Kindergarten and finished up with an appointment, I hurried to my last errand at the Cadillac dealer to have something checked on my vehicle. I dropped my car off and entered the waiting area and sat down as I thought about how hard kids, marriage, and life in general just is. I was a little sad this morning and had a l lot on my mind. We all have ups and downs but this was a definite down. Anyways, a few seconds after I sat, a man around 85 years old, named Darol Wayne Carlson sat down next to me and changed my outlook on life.

Darol Wayne Carlson could have sat anywhere in this room but he chose the chair right next to me. "Hi, How are you today!" he says. He was so cheerful and full of life at 85 years old that I could not help but become curious about him. I did the same thing you did to anyone who asks how your day is and made small talk. I was honestly just hoping my car would get there so I could leave. Then Darol starts asking lots of questions about what I did for a living, where I lived, and about my kids. He was so interested in me. Usually, I just make the small talk and then go on my way, but there was something about this man's kind eyes that made me want to stay, listen, and forget all about the car that was waiting outside at this point. Maybe the fact he wanted to hear about me and didn't even know me. The fact that this man was genuinely interested in meeting me, getting to know me. This is quite untypical for Los Angeles. Now I was interested in Darol. He had drawn me in. Something so loving and kind about this man. He had asked me all the questions about my life, and now it was time to hear a little about him. So I asked. Darol started with, "I'm a dishwasher who married a Hollywood legend." I was thinking to myself after that comment that he must have lost it. I had no clue what this man was talking about. He goes on to tell me that his wife of fifty years, the red head, love of his life, had died years ago and it was sad. Then I was thinking, "Oh no! I don't need any more sad today!". Then he continues the story telling me about how after his wife died, he was watching television and recognized a former movie star he met, the Hollywood legend, Rhonda Fleming. He went on telling me how he had once seen Rhonda with his wife and told the movie star that he was dying to introduce his wife to his "other favorite redhead"(obviously referring to her). He told me when he saw Rhonda, it brought back old memories and he decided to write her. His daughter told him that she probably would not get it because Rhonda gets so many fan emails and letters on a daily basis. He told me that he had always been a go-getter and he went for it! Well, it ends up that this sweet old man, Darol Wayne Carlson, owner of a dishwasher company, won the heart of this Hollywood legend over through his letter and coffee date, and they have been married ever since! He tells me that they are so happy and in love and tells me so much about her. He is truly so happy! He brought out the wallet pictures and everything. I have never seen a man talk so much about how happy he was. He was beaming! At the same time, he wanted to know about me. One of the kindest men. We finished up our conversation, I give him my information, and we went our separate ways.

Anyways, point of the story. I was so focused on myself and my pains that I didn't let the joys of life be the main focus. As you can see by my first paragraph, my personality is sometimes, "The grass is always greener" and I can tend to focus on the pains. I am learning to be joyful and thankful for life! This man is in his last years yet I have never seen a more joyful, full of life person! He talked about his 10 great grandchildren, his grandchildren, his children, his gratefulness to be married to a beautiful wife of fifty years, and then when that ended, how God gave him another beautiful wife. He was just continuing to share the "JOYS" of his life and not one sorrow story. He felt blessed and lucky to have lived this life. I also later looked he and his wife up online and saw that they have strong Christian faith. The fact that he never once had to mention this "faith" to me but I could see it in him is what I was referring to in my first blog post. This is REAL faith to me. In conclusion, It is way more than the fact that he was a dishwasher that married a movie star. He was a good, happy man that was blessed from being content with what he had. I believe we get small miracles and blessings when we live like this. This man was a God send to me today. Thank you, Darol, for making me think a lot and evaluate my life. I have so many joys!!

Tuesday, May 4, 2010

Happy Mother's Day!

I hope each and every one of you enjoy this Mother's Day week and get to celebrate it with someone special! HAPPY MOTHER'S DAY to all the beautiful women out there! Enjoy the inspirational quotes I have included on my post!



"All that I am or ever hope to be, I owe to my angel Mother."
-- Abraham Lincoln (1809-1865)

"I remember my mother's prayers and they have always followed me. They have clung to me all my life."
-- Abraham Lincoln (1809-1865)

"A mother's love for her child is like nothing else in the world. It knows no law, no pity, it dares all things and crushes down remorselessly all that stands in its path."
-- Agatha Christie

"You do not really understand something unless you can explain it to your grandmother."
-- Albert Einstein

"By and large, mothers and housewives are the only workers who do not have regular time off. They are the great vacationless class."
-- Anne Morrow Lindbergh

"Mothers are fonder than fathers of their children because they are more certain they are their own."
-- Aristotle

"Mother is far too clever to understand anything she does not like."
-- Arnold Bennett

"A mother is she who can take the place of all others but
whose place no one else can take."
-- Cardinal Mermillod

"A mother is not a person to lean on but a person to make leaning unnecessary."
-- Dorothy Canfield Fisher

"I really learned it all from mothers."
-- Dr. Benjamin Spock

"If there were no schools to take the children away from home part of the time, the insane asylum would be filled with mothers."
-- Edgar Watson Howe

"My mother was the most beautiful woman I ever saw. All I am I owe to my mother. I attribute all my success in life to the moral, intellectual and physical education I received from her."
-- George Washington (1732-1799)

"The mother's heart is the child's schoolroom."
-- Henry Ward Beecher

"What the mother sings to the cradle goes all the way down to the coffin."
-- Henry Ward Beecher

"The heart of a mother is a deep abyss at the bottom of which you will always find forgiveness."
-- Honore' de Balzac

"Education commences at the mother's knee, and every word spoken within hearsay of little children tends toward the formation of character."
-- Hosea Ballou

"Whatever else is unsure in this stinking dunghill of a world a mother's love is not."
-- James Joyce

"The best academy, a mother's knee."
-- James Russell Lowell

"The phrase "working mother" is redundant."
-- Jane Sellman

"God could not be everywhere, and therefore he made mothers."
-- Jewish proverb

"Mothers all want their sons to grow up to be president, but they don't want them to become politicians in the process."
-- John Fitzgerald Kennedy

"A boy's best friend is his mother."
-- Joseph Stefano

"Most of all the other beautiful things in life come by twos and threes by dozens and hundreds. Plenty of roses, stars, sunsets, rainbows, brothers, and sisters, aunts and cousins, but only one mother in the whole world."
-- Kate Douglas Wiggin

"Of all the rights of women, the greatest is to be a mother."
-- Lin Yutang

"My mother had a great deal of trouble with me, but I think she enjoyed it."
-- Mark Twain

"Motherhood is like Albania-- you can't trust the descriptions in the books, you have to go there."
-- Marni Jackson

"We are not born all at once, but by bits. The body first, and the spirit later; and the birth and growth of the spirit, in those who are attentive to their own inner life, are slow and exceedingly painful. Our mothers are racked with the pains of our physical birth; we ourselves suffer the longer pains of our spiritual growth."
-- Mary Antin

"To describe my mother would be to write about a hurricane in its perfect power."
-- Maya Angelou

"Over the years I have learned that motherhood is much like an austere religious order, the joining of which obligates one to relinquish all claims to personal possessions."
-- Nancy Stahl

"Youth fades, love droops, the leaves of friendship fall; a mother's secret hope outlives them all."
-- Oliver Wendell Holmes (1775-1817)

"All women become like their mothers. That is their tragedy. No man does. That's his."
-- Oscar Wilde

"When I was a child, my mother said to me, 'If you become a soldier, you'll be a general. If you become a monk you'll end up as the pope.' Instead I became a painter and wound up as Picasso."
-- Pablo Picasso

"A mother's hardest to forgive. Life is the fruit she longs to hand you, Ripe on a plate. And while you live, Relentlessly she understands you."
-- Phyllis McGinley

"Men are what their mothers made them."
-- Ralph Waldo Emerson

"There never was a child so lovely but his mother was glad to get him asleep."
-- Ralph Waldo Emerson

"A mother is a mother still, The holiest thing alive."
-- Samuel Taylor Coleridge

"People who exercise their embryonic freedom day after day, little by little, expand that freedom. People who do not will find that it withers until they are literally 'being lived.' They are acting out scripts written by parents, associates, and society."
-- Stephen R. Covey

"Never say anything on the phone that you wouldn't want your mother to hear at your trial."
-- Sydney Biddle Barrows

"The commonest fallacy among women is that simply having children makes one a mother—which is as absurd as believing that having a piano makes one a musician."
-- Sydney J. Harris

"An ounce of mother is worth a ton of priest."
-- Spanish proverb

"The most important thing a father can do for his children is to love their mother."
-- Theodore Hesburgh

"A woman has two smiles that an angel might envy, the smile that accepts a lover before words are uttered, and the smile that lights on the first born babe, and assures it of a mother's love."
-- Thomas C. Haliburton

"Grown don't mean nothing to a mother. A child is a child. They get bigger, older, but grown. In my heart it don't mean a thing."
-- Toni Morrison

"Children are the sum of what mothers contribute to their lives."
-- Unknown

"A mother's arms are made of tenderness and children sleep soundly in them."
-- Victor Hugo

"A mother is the truest friend we have, when trials, heavy and sudden, fall upon us when adversity takes the place of prosperity when friends who rejoice with us in our sunshine, desert us when troubles thicken around us, still will she cling to us, and endeavor by her kind precepts and counsels to dissipate the clouds of darkness, and cause peace to return to our hearts."
--Washington Irving

"The only thing a lawyer won't question is the legitimacy of his mother."
-- W. C. Fields

"A man never sees all that his mother has been to him until it's too late to let her know that he sees it."
-- W. D. Howells

"Mother is the name for God in the lips and hearts of little children."
--William Makepeace Thackeray

"The hand that rocks the cradle is the hand that rules the world."
-- William Ross Wallace

A mother is a person who seeing there are only four pieces of pie for five people, promptly announces she never did care for pie. ~Tenneva Jordan


Hundreds of dewdrops to greet the dawn,
Hundreds of bees in the purple clover,
Hundreds of butterflies on the lawn,
But only one mother the wide world over.
~George Cooper


Being a full-time mother is one of the highest salaried jobs... since the payment is pure love. ~Mildred B. Vermont


The sweetest sounds to mortals given
Are heard in Mother, Home, and Heaven.
~William Goldsmith Brown


A suburban mother's role is to deliver children obstetrically once, and by car forever after. ~Peter De Vries


If the whole world were put into one scale, and my mother in the other, the whole world would kick the beam. ~Lord Langdale (Henry Bickersteth)


Mothers hold their children's hands for a short while, but their hearts forever. ~Author Unknown


The moment a child is born, the mother is also born. She never existed before. The woman existed, but the mother, never. A mother is something absolutely new. ~Rajneesh


All mothers are working mothers. ~Author Unknown


When you are a mother, you are never really alone in your thoughts. A mother always has to think twice, once for herself and once for her child. ~Sophia Loren, Women and Beauty


Mother love is the fuel that enables a normal human being to do the impossible. ~Marion C. Garretty, quoted in A Little Spoonful of Chicken Soup for the Mother's Soul


Mother - that was the bank where we deposited all our hurts and worries. ~T. DeWitt Talmage


A mother is a mother still,
The holiest thing alive.
~Samuel Taylor Coleridge


The real religion of the world comes from women much more than from men - from mothers most of all, who carry the key of our souls in their bosoms. ~Oliver Wendell Holmes


God could not be everywhere and therefore he made mothers. ~Jewish Proverb


A mother understands what a child does not say. ~Author Unknown


I remember my mother's prayers and they have always followed me. They have clung to me all my life. ~Abraham Lincoln


My mom is a neverending song in my heart of comfort, happiness, and being. I may sometimes forget the words but I always remember the tune. ~Graycie Harmon


It would seem that something which means poverty, disorder and violence every single day should be avoided entirely, but the desire to beget children is a natural urge. ~Phyllis Diller


Woman in the home has not yet lost her dignity, in spite of Mother's Day, with its offensive implication that our love needs an annual nudging, like our enthusiasm for the battle of Bunker Hill. ~John Erskine


Women's Liberation is just a lot of foolishness. It's the men who are discriminated against. They can't bear children. And no one's likely to do anything about that. ~Golda Meir


A man loves his sweetheart the most, his wife the best, but his mother the longest. ~Irish Proverb


Before I got married I had six theories about bringing up children; now I have six children, and no theories. ~John Wilmot



You don't really understand human nature unless you know why a child on a merry-go-round will wave at his parents every time around - and why his parents will always wave back. ~William D. Tammeus


Now that... my kids are grown, I understand how much work and love it takes to raise and to keep a family together. The example of your strength, devotion, and patience is now rippling through the generations. Thank you! ~Forest Houtenschil


Biology is the least of what makes someone a mother. ~Oprah Winfrey


Motherhood is priced
Of God, at price no man may dare
To lessen or misunderstand.
~Helen Hunt Jackson


Are we not like two volumes of one book? ~Marceline Desbordes-Valmore


It kills you to see them grow up. But I guess it would kill you quicker if they didn't. ~Barbara Kingsolver, Animal Dreams


Who fed me from her gentle breast
And hushed me in her arms to rest,
And on my cheek sweet kisses prest?
My Mother.
~Ann Taylor


Who ran to help me when I fell,
And would some pretty story tell,
Or kiss the place to make it well?
My mother.
~Ann Taylor


On Mother's Day I have written a poem for you. In the interest of poetic economy and truth, I have succeeded in concentrating my deepest feelings and beliefs into two perfectly crafted lines: You're my mother, I would have no other! ~Forest Houtenschil


Children are a great comfort in your old age - and they help you reach it faster, too. ~Lionel Kauffman


Mother is the name for God in the lips and hearts of little children. ~William Makepeace Thackeray


A mother is the truest friend we have, when trials heavy and sudden, fall upon us; when adversity takes the place of prosperity; when friends who rejoice with us in our sunshine desert us; when trouble thickens around us, still will she cling to us, and endeavor by her kind precepts and counsels to dissipate the clouds of darkness, and cause peace to return to our hearts. ~Washington Irving


This heart, my own dear mother, bends,
With love's true instinct, back to thee!
~Thomas Moore


Insanity is hereditary; you get it from your children. ~Sam Levenson


The one thing children wear out faster than shoes is parents. ~John J. Plomp


Most mothers are instinctive philosophers. ~Harriet Beecher Stowe


Before a day was over,
Home comes the rover,
For mother's kiss - sweeter this
Than any other thing!
~William Allingham


I don't care how poor a man is; if he has family, he's rich. ~Dan Wilcox and Thad Mumford, M*A*S*H, "Identity Crisis,"


Oh, the comfort, the inexpressible comfort of feeling safe with a person, having neither to weigh thoughts nor measure words, but pouring them all out, just as they are, chaff and grain together, certain that a faithful hand will take and sift them, keep what is worth keeping, and with a breath of kindness blow the rest away. ~Dinah Craik


Where we love is home - home that our feet may leave, but not our hearts. ~Oliver Wendell Holmes, Sr.


In everyone's life, at some time, our inner fire goes out. It is then burst into flame by an encounter with another human being. We should all be thankful for those people who rekindle the inner spirit. ~Albert Schweitzer


Let us be grateful to people who make us happy, they are the charming gardeners who make our souls blossom. ~Marcel Proust


If I had a single flower for every time I think about you, I could walk forever in my garden. ~Attributed to Claudia Ghandi


A Freudian slip is when you say one thing but mean your mother. ~Author Unknown


Sweater, n.: garment worn by child when its mother is feeling chilly. ~Ambrose Bierce


All women become like their mothers. That is their tragedy. No man does. That's his. ~Oscar Wilde, The Importance of Being Earnest, 1895


Mothers are fonder than fathers of their children because they are more certain they are their own. ~Aristotle


A man's work is from sun to sun, but a mother's work is never done. ~Author Unknown


Making the decision to have a child is momentous. It is to decide forever to have your heart go walking around outside your body. ~Elizabeth Stone


Parents often talk about the younger generation as if they didn't have anything to do with it. ~Haim Ginott


Sing out loud in the car even, or especially, if it embarrasses your children. ~Marilyn Penland


Each day of our lives we make deposits in the memory banks of our children. ~Charles R. Swindoll, The Strong Family


There is only one pretty child in the world, and every mother has it. ~Chinese Proverb


Never raise your hand to your kids. It leaves your groin unprotected. ~Red Buttons


If nature had arranged that husbands and wives should have children alternatively, there would never be more than three in a family. ~Lawrence Housman


Setting a good example for your children takes all the fun out of middle age. ~William Feather, The Business of Life, 1949


Your responsibility as a parent is not as great as you might imagine. You need not supply the world with the next conqueror of disease or major motion-picture star. If your child simply grows up to be someone who does not use the word "collectible" as a noun, you can consider yourself an unqualified success. ~Fran Lebowitz, "Parental Guidance," Social Studies, 1981

Friday, April 30, 2010

Get to Know Me

I want to start off my first blog with a little "Get To Know Me" Post. I have a lot that I want to share with other moms out there but understand you have to get to know someone before even wanting to take somebody's tips or advice. As for me, I want to know who I am about to take advice from or whom I am reading about.

I am a young mom (just turned 28 on March 27th) living in Malibu, California. I am definitely not going to get into major detail to bore you =) but I have a lot more experience then most gals my age and that is why most of my friends now are mostly in their early to mid thirties. I don't think age really matters. It is what you live, learn, experience, and take from your journey and where you are at in your own life.

I have made some mistakes that took me down a path that was extremely difficult but I would never change a thing. My past is who makes me into what I am and still trying to be, gave me my girls, led me to finding my 2nd husband(who took in my younger daughter Sophia and accepted her as his own), and has made me strong. I don't think there is anything that could get in my way(besides death of a family member) that would break me cause I have seen the worst behind me. I am a fiesty, determined, strong-willed, woman who doesn't like being wrong but will admit when I am! I am learning that being strong and having good character is admitting you are wrong and seeing what you can do to change things that get in your way of being a better mother, daughter, wife, and friend. I used to think I was weak when I kept failing but now I am seeing that being able to recognize when I do fall is the biggest strength of all.

Another big thing that I am learning is to accept me for me and realize that you can change the negative without trying to change who you are. I can sometimes be so hard on myself and be my own worst enemy! I am a southern girl, raised in Nasvhille, Tn, so living in Los Angeles(been here four years now) is extremely hard. I suppose it is hard anywhere being a woman and being challenged by today's society and the need to look good and have the next best thing but it is EXTREMELY hard out here. I have found myself coming from having enough to be thankful for to having too much! I sometimes get really caught up in my surroundings. I need more strength to be content. Sounds horrible, I know, but I am realizing it and taking small steps to being who I want to be. Sometimes I call Los Angeles, "LA LA LAND" and refer to it as a place where people don't have realistic expectations. It is world of make believe to me. Sometimes I want to grab the lady next to me in the coffee shop with the Louis Vuitton, toy dog, and massive amount of plastic surgery, and say, "Come one, lady! Life it so much more!! HELLO! Wake up!!". At the same time I find myself then looking at myself and realizing that I have nice bags, a freakin 2.2 million dollar home in Malibu(not much for "LA" but so much more than I ever dreamed), an extremely nice car, and so many materialistic bullshit things that mean nothing at the end of the day. I find myself comparing my life to friends close to me and why my house isn't as big or why I don't have the new chanel bag they have yet! Back when I was living the southern life, I was focused on other things. I guess the difference between me and coffee shop lady is that I do know reality and what is most important and I am taking notice to when I am getting caught up? I am trying to teach my children that these "things" don't make us happy but love and learning through this thing called "life" is what the meaning of life is. I want my daughters to have nice things but i want them to have a happy heart more than anything. Through God's grace and through my eagerness to grow as a mom and woman, I pray for strength to make it in this extremely tough world. We all experience DIFFERENT weakness and hardships. I am a "Grass is always greener on the other side" woman so that is the weakness I am working on. I have always been that way so i am trying to learn to appreciate what I have and see that I have so much more than most would dream for.

God is good. I am a spiritual person that loves God, believes in His miracles and love for us yet at the same time I am not caught up in "religion" and being "religious". I believe that sometimes "religion" takes away from spirituality and the true meaning and purpose of God. I grew up around "religion" and know it can be so hypocritical and that's what draws people away rather than closer. A stranger or friend should see your heart through knowing you and not you preaching it through threatening technique(I'm not saying you shouldn't speak and be proud... talking about something different). That's my belief and wanted to share to end me post. Thank you God for life, blessings, and for second chances when we fall!

This is my daily prayer:

God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change;
courage to change the things I can; and wisdom to know the difference.
Living one day at a time;
Enjoying one moment at a time;
Accepting hardships as the pathway to peace;
Taking, as He did, this sinful world as it is, not as I would have it;
Trusting that He will make all things right if I surrender to His Will;
That I may be reasonably happy in this life and supremely happy with Him
Forever in the next. Amen.